Great article, Emily! You capture the ambivalence inherent in the massive cultural shift that #MeToo represents. As the old paradigm is dying — and I pray it is — how the hell are we supposed to behave? Are there new rules? What are they? Here’s a go: Let’s not make it about rules at all. Changing the story to one that includes men and women as mutually interdependent in sexual encounters (as in others) means recognizing that 1. There can be, and is, common ground (everyone wants respect). 2. Consent needs to go both ways. 3. Power dynamics are a part of, but shouldn’t ultimately define sexual encounters — I believe that the latter is in fact a patriarchal construct. 4. A guiding question can be: How can I act, right now, in a way that feels right without demeaning myself or the other person? 5. This can be practiced in non-sexual encounters, all the time.